Motivational Coaching

This is the season where we especially focus on giving and receiving. In this special edition I would like to share a timely understanding my friend Wanda and I gained through our conversations on looking for better solutions: Spiritual Tithing

In December I went to my grocery store and was asked at the register if I wanted to donate money to a certain cause. The friendly cashier told me that most customers would just round up their bills. I felt a little pushed over and could feel the pressure that I should round up my bill. But I stepped back and observed my feelings and decided not to give to this course in this moment.

We often get into situations where we are confronted with worthy causes and feel a certain obligation to donate money.  When Wanda and I discussed the idea to give to (support) causes that spiritually uplift us, donating money suddenly felt right.

In the last years I have seen newsletters from other coaches and spiritual healers that asked for a donation. Two example phrase that got my attention was: “Did you enjoy this post? Now you can thank me with a donation.” and “Your donations are appreciated and help with this work.” It has always intrigued me and it is a great example for spiritual tithing.

I read newsletters and blogs that I thoroughly enjoy that help me to hang on in tough times. Often I don’t feel drawn to sign up for the additional services offered. The option of donation is giving me the opportunity to acknowledge and thank the author for her support.

Another example is sharing materials from others. Wanda and I discussed Carol Tuttle’s work on Dressing Your Truth (www.dressingyourtruth.com). She describes four different types of personal beauty profiles. Wanda and I are different types and I wanted her insights on some questions I had.

We discussed integrity around giving Wanda access to my profile on the internet as she hadn’t paid to view this particular type. We wanted to honor Carol Tuttle’s work and at the same time sharing the information so that we could create better from it.

Spiritual tithing was the answer. Wanda suggested to email Carol and explain what we wanted to do and donate some money to Carol to express how much she appreciates her work.

If this concept resonates with you I encourage you to look at good courses you consider donating to and identify why you want to give your support. Is this course uplifting you spiritually or do you feel you have to give. Remember humanity is diverse and individuals are spiritually uplifted through different situations.

I see spiritual tithing as an opportunity to support something I want to see in this world.

Happy spiritual uplifting to you,

Freya

Wanda’s comments…

• In general there is something about being ‘asked’ to donate that feels ‘off’ to me, almost like I’m contributing to a perception grounded in an energy of lack. (And I also recognize we are in transition around our relationship with money and our ability to truly care for each other’s well-being.)

• When I find myself in a situation where money could make a difference, or is being presented as going to make a difference, I check in with what is going on in my body and energy field. Am I noticing any contractions? uneasiness? anything other than a  ‘This is so cool! I’m in!’. The consciousness with which I give money gets carried along with the money. Giving from ‘clean’ energy is aligning with my own integrity. (This is a profound spiritual practice in itself, given the emotional charge and judgments most of us hold around money.)

• The key for me is to flow in a way that uplifts *me*, delights me as much as the other person, connects *me* with joy, surprise, an unexpected transmission of love. So that energy flows into the ‘collective circulatory system’ of money.

• It’s also important not to have any strings attached to the giving. It’s like sharing a laugh with a stranger then moving on with the day.

• Tithing becomes fun. When we receive money, it comes with a built-in ’surprise/uplift someone’ budget.

When money flows in this way, we begin to easily receive without ‘owing’ anything and naturally create beauty, care, and uplift for all.